Deciding to Marry
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Hobbit Love: Online Dating, Marriage after Divorce, Dating with Children by Richard
Let’s hear a story from a husband’s perspective! Read this sweet story of Richard’s second chance of finding love – and finding his “Hobbit, Lord of the Rings-loving” wife. We are happy to share this story about online dating, marriage after divorce, and dating with children through a man’s eyes. Dating with Children The year was 2012, I was living in Eagle Mountain, Utah as a 30 year old single father. Being a single dad to my daughter and working full time made dating a challenge. Friends and family members would do their best to set me up, though this never turned out to lead to anything more than a…
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I Love My Husband but I Hate Our Marriage: Constant Fighting in Marriage, Competition in a Marriage by Anonymous
This author wanted to share how her perfectionism wreaked havoc on her marriage. She and her husband endured constant fighting in marriage and the consequences of competition in a marriage. If you’ve ever thought to yourself “I love my husband and hate our marriage,” you’re not alone. Read this author’s story: Setting the Stage for Competition in a Marriage This isn’t a long story, but it’s a lesson I want to share. My entire life pre-marriage, I had always been strong willed. I liked to make all the decisions and I tended to believe what I believe was always correct. Yes, I need to work on being humble, but it’s…
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Who Did I Marry? When the Honeymoon Phase Ends Early by Madi
When we got out of the water, C found a little hermit crab and started chasing me around with it. I always loved how playful and silly he could be. He never had to act like he was “too cool.” He was just himself, and I loved that. After taunting me with our new-found friend, we headed back to our cabana to layout and relax. I reached for my phone to look through some of the photos we had taken, but I quickly realized my phone was shorting out. Somehow, some water must have gotten into the case. I was so annoyed, but hey at least C still had his…
- Anxiety and Panic, Church of Jesus Christ of LDS, Dating, Deciding to Marry, Identity, Marrying Young, Raising Children
Cutting Single Life Short: Mourning Single Life, Struggling with Marriage and Motherhood by Jessica
I was the typical girl at BYU who came, studied Elementary Education, and married a young RM at age 20. Except I had never wanted that. I wanted to travel the world, meet and date a lot of boys, graduate and use my degree, and live independently away from home for years before “settling down”. It’s hard for me to explain how hard this was for me. I grew up in Ohio. I didn’t date before I went to college. At all. I had been on two dates. One was actually with some guy I met while visiting Utah over the summer. And another was a guy from my stake that I…
- Church of Jesus Christ of LDS, Cultural Differences, Dating, Deciding to Marry, Dishonesty, Family Dynamics, Financial Challenges, Marrying Young
Finding Strength Part II: Marrying Outside the Temple, My Spouse Doesn’t Know the Real Me
While it’s not advice that I’d recommend to most, the truth is that running away from my problems worked. There were a few rough weeks as I scrambled around finding ways to survive. Luckily, I was hired on the spot after an interview at Vivint Smart Home. I started working in their customer service call center which helped me save up enough money to buy a car and a bed. A few weeks later I was able to buy a bedding set for that bed. From there, my life continued to fall into place. Living in Utah, I quickly realized that I would have trouble fitting in if…
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Feeling Naive: Marrying Someone Who has Been Divorced, Marrying Young vs Marrying Later by Cassandra
Cassandra shares her story about marrying a divorced man who is older than herself. Between disapproval of her loved ones and her own burning questions about marrying young vs marrying later, getting married was a difficult decision. If you have experience marrying someone who has been divorced, you will relate with Cassandra’s concerns and story. Marrying Young vs Marrying Later: 18-Year-Old Bride I was a newly engaged 18-year-old that never even had a boyfriend before my now-husband. My first boyfriend, my now-husband, was once married. He had divorced his ex-wife just a year before meeting me. It makes my cringe to even say those words. I feel like it automatically…
- Anxiety and Panic, Church of Jesus Christ of LDS, Deciding to Marry, Marrying Young, Mental Illness, Therapy, Trust Issues
Sink or Swim Part 1: Anxiety and a Relationship, How do I Know if I Should Get Married? by Anonymous
How do I know if I should get married? Is it a feeling, is it trust, is it a risk? Knowing whether or not you should get married is very personal, but we recommend taking time to get to know your partner. See them when they’re angry, upset, frustrated, and stressed. Ask them every single question — nothing is off-limits. This author understands that anxiety and a relationship can make progression very difficult. Don’t hesitate to consult with people you trust, including loved ones, leaders, and therapists. Here is one woman’s story. I grew up a very happy person. I loved my family, loved my friends, loved what I did.…
- Church of Jesus Christ of LDS, Dating, Deciding to Marry, Differing Values, Marrying Young, Mental Illness, Sexuality, Therapy
Humility in Marriage: Anxiety Affecting Marriage, Relationship OCD Success Stories by Morgan
Anxiety affecting marriage is becoming more common in today’s day and age. Morgan and many of our other writers have faced this problem head-on, and it manifests itself in different ways in marriage. Another mental health problem that can rear itself in marriage. Though less common, OCD can stress marriages to the point of divorce. If you need hope and you’re looking for relationship OCD success stories, Morgan has a fabulous one. Introduction: Marrying an Amazing yet Imperfect Person I have a great marriage and an amazing husband! He cooks me breakfast, carries me to bed, always asks what he can do for me, strives to improve whenever I ask,…
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Is it Normal to be Scared before Marriage? And How to Improve Marriage Relationship by Anonymous
This writer almost didn’t go through with marrying her now-husband. She found herself asking: “Is it normal to be scared before marriage?” Once married, she found herself wondering how to improve a marriage relationship. She made a lot of discoveries through trial that made her a better wife and a happier person. I Don’t Want to Get Married! I was terrified to get married. After several breakups and makeups with my now husband, I finally got the courage and faith to go forward with such a big commitment. Why was I so scared? There were two reasons. One was that others around me seemed like they had a flawless courtship…