Church of Jesus Christ of LDS
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Being a Traditional Wife Married to a Feminist Man: Marriage and Feminism by Hayley
Some of us plan on being a traditional wife more than we realize. Others have a husband who hope their woman will enjoy being a traditional wife. What happens when a traditional woman and a feminist man come together? Can marriage and feminism work together? Part I: Before I Knew I Married a Feminist Man I’m only two months in and already failing at being a wife. The first year is supposed to be the ‘Honeymoon Year,’ so maybe this marriage is wrong. You’re supposed to be happy to do the dishes, plan the meals, and manage the household. If he has to lift a finger, I’m a terrible wife……
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Does Silent Treatment Work in a Marriage? When a Marriage Lacks Communication
by Ellen Do you ever feel like your marriage lacks communication? Many of our marriage stories deal with communication, and we encourage you to explore more of them. In this story, our author discusses her communication struggles and answers the question: Does silent treatment work in a marriage? Marriage Stories: Meeting and Marrying my Husband My husband and I knew each other for about 8 years before we even dated and then… we got married! We both grew up in North Dakota about an hour away from each other (yes, people do live there). We met at some church activity when we were 15 or 16; we have different memories…
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My Journey: Divorce & Remarriage, with Children
This story is the personal experience and advice from Robyn about how she helped her children during her divorce & remarriage. Check out this book, “How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk” to learn more about how to communicate with your children in the best ways! Hi! I would like to share a personal experience and some advice for parents who are divorced. Life Changes I married my high school love after he served a 2-year service mission for our church. Fast forward 7 years and we had 4 cute little boys, ranging from ages 6 years to 4 months old. One day he…
- Abuse, Anxiety and Panic, Arguing, Church of Jesus Christ of LDS, Dating, Divorce, Marrying Young, Mental Illness, Therapy
Part 1: When is Divorce the Answer? by Anonymous
A Story of Emotional Abuse in Marriage, Physical Abuse in Marriage, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder in Husband We talk a lot about working through problems and staying married here at Wives’ Tribe, but when is divorce the answer? Abuse is a reason to end a marriage, and so is a person who is not only imperfect but also immovable. A person who is treating you poorly and entirely unwilling to change may have problems that are beyond your control. Read on for a story about emotional abuse in marriage and how this anonymous writer dealt with their hurdles. After enduring physical abuse in marriage and narcissistic personality disorder in her…
- Abuse, Arguing, Church of Jesus Christ of LDS, Considering Divorce, Family Dynamics, Fertility, Raising Children, Therapy
Therapy or Divorce: Childhood Trauma, Miscarriage and Family, Becoming Co-Parenting Roommates by Anonymous
“Either go back to therapy or I want a divorce.” Words I never thought I would say or truly mean. I’ve never given an ultimatum before. I don’t like ultimatums, they can seem like manipulation. But I had hit my limit. My husband and I have been married for 5 years, and they’ve been some of the best and happiest, as well as some of the hardest years of my life. When I met him, he become my best friend. We spent every day together and had so much fun. All I had really wanted was a friend, and we were for a little while. Then our relationship progressed and…
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Stay or Go? – Debating Divorce, Debilitating Addiction by Anonymous
I started off the year 2015 as a recent divorcee from a verbally abusive marriage, and honestly, I was wanting to be loved! I started going back to church to truly work on myself. I attended a church that was specifically for young single adults (known as a YSA ward in “Mormon” lingo). When I first started attending, all I could think of myself was as “damaged goods.” As the months passed by, I met Chad. Chad was the SWEETEST man I had ever met. We grew close, and eventually it turned into a passionate relationship. I confided in him my divorce and the reasons for it, and he was…
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Marriage Isn’t a Fairy Tale: When Values Change Over Time by Anonymous
I was told as a young woman to date and marry someone whose values matched mine. I was never told they might change their mind. I was taught to value and strive for a temple marriage. I was not told that I might fall in love with someone who wouldn’t necessarily want the same thing. My husband is a wonderful, kind, and caring individual. He loves serving others, he is frugal, he put others before himself… in short, he is amazing. He accepts me in all my flaws and puts up with my crazy family. When we first got married, we thought it best to have a civil marriage, and…
- Anxiety and Panic, Church of Jesus Christ of LDS, Dating, Deciding to Marry, Identity, Marrying Young, Raising Children
Cutting Single Life Short: Mourning Single Life, Struggling with Marriage and Motherhood by Jessica
I was the typical girl at BYU who came, studied Elementary Education, and married a young RM at age 20. Except I had never wanted that. I wanted to travel the world, meet and date a lot of boys, graduate and use my degree, and live independently away from home for years before “settling down”. It’s hard for me to explain how hard this was for me. I grew up in Ohio. I didn’t date before I went to college. At all. I had been on two dates. One was actually with some guy I met while visiting Utah over the summer. And another was a guy from my stake that I…
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Imperfect People Part IV: What’s the Point? Overcoming Marital Challenges by Anonymous
My marital challenges put strain not only on my relationship with my husband but also on my relationship with God. Trusting God On those nights when dark thoughts clouded my mind, and I didn’t want to be a wife or a mother anymore, I cried out to my Heavenly Father, and was disappointed with the lack of love I felt back. I didn’t get much of an answer. The only answers I heard were things I did not think my kind Heavenly Father would say to His struggling daughter. “Tough it out.” “It’s not that bad.” “You’re choosing to be depressed.” I still do not know if those words were…
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Finding Strength Part III: Faith Crisis, Sex Drought, Less Love, Suicidal Thoughts by Anonymous
He belongs to a very large family and is one of 7 siblings. Unfortunately, he hasn’t felt close to any of them since his mother died when he was 13 years old. She fought a vicious battle with Melanoma that progressed to a point where she was left comatose and dying in their home until it took her life. He watched his mother die slowly. He witnessed her declining every day until she took her last breaths. Shortly after his mother died, his father remarried, and the family moved two hours away. He had just lost his mother, a stranger was now living in his home and trying to control…