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Therapy or Divorce: Childhood Trauma, Miscarriage and Family, Becoming Co-Parenting Roommates by Anonymous
“Either go back to therapy or I want a divorce.” Words I never thought I would say or truly mean. I’ve never given an ultimatum before. I don’t like ultimatums, they can seem like manipulation. But I had hit my limit. My husband and I have been married for 5 years, and they’ve been some of the best and happiest, as well as some of the hardest years of my life. When I met him, he become my best friend. We spent every day together and had so much fun. All I had really wanted was a friend, and we were for a little while. Then our relationship progressed and…
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Six Years: Pornography & Cheating, Separation, and Finding Inner Strength by Anonymous
I feel raw writing this, because it is unfolding very literally as I type the words. It is a story that one day I hope to share freely. But because I am parallel processing alongside this writing, I thought best to keep it anonymous for now. I have a marriage probably quite a bit like yours. And although I don’t need to tell you this, I will: I love my husband. I adore him. He has given me the world’s most beautiful children, and he has supported me in my dreams. He is kind and good to his core; he is generous, selfless, and willing to change. I have a…
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Feeling Ambivalent Towards your Partner: Facing the Challenge of Postpartum Depression by BriElle
I was hit with postpartum depression shortly after the birth of my third child. I had three kids ages two and under, and felt completely overwhelmed by my situation. “How can I do this? What have I done to myself? Do I even like being a mom?” were all thoughts that scrambled through my mind relentlessly. I wept, feeling so much anxiety and pressure to be all that my three kids needed me to be. Thankfully, that pressure did not come from my husband. He did not expect to come home from work with a clean house or dinner on the table. He is an incredible man, and fully supports…
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Forming a New Family: Living near In-Laws, Fighting for Time by Anonymous
Just over a year ago, my husband, our first child, and I moved to his hometown for his new job in the family business. My husband’s entire extended family — grandparents on both sides, aunts, uncles and cousins on both sides, their in-laws, great aunts and uncles, etc. — all live in this same area and see each other everywhere. They work together, send their kids to the same schools, invest in the same projects, and meet up at church on Sunday. When I was younger, it was just my parents and my siblings. We were independent, introverted, and happy to “do our own thing”. Living around so much family…
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Marriage Isn’t a Fairy Tale: When Values Change Over Time by Anonymous
I was told as a young woman to date and marry someone whose values matched mine. I was never told they might change their mind. I was taught to value and strive for a temple marriage. I was not told that I might fall in love with someone who wouldn’t necessarily want the same thing. My husband is a wonderful, kind, and caring individual. He loves serving others, he is frugal, he put others before himself… in short, he is amazing. He accepts me in all my flaws and puts up with my crazy family. When we first got married, we thought it best to have a civil marriage, and…
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Blending Parenthood and Marriage by Jenna
Parenthood is beautiful and rewarding, and the best job in the world, but It can also be a vortex. As a parent, especially a mom, we give so much of ourselves to our kids. We give our time, our bodies, and possibly even sideline certain dreams. However, the one thing we have to be careful not to give up is our marriage. When my husband and I became parents for the first time, everything became about our daughter. She was breastfed and refused a bottle, so leaving her for very long was out of the question. Because of this, I’m sure you can imagine, that dates with just the two…
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Cutting Single Life Short: Mourning Single Life, Struggling with Marriage and Motherhood by Jessica
I was the typical girl at BYU who came, studied Elementary Education, and married a young RM at age 20. Except I had never wanted that. I wanted to travel the world, meet and date a lot of boys, graduate and use my degree, and live independently away from home for years before “settling down”. It’s hard for me to explain how hard this was for me. I grew up in Ohio. I didn’t date before I went to college. At all. I had been on two dates. One was actually with some guy I met while visiting Utah over the summer. And another was a guy from my stake that I…
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Imperfect People Part IV: What’s the Point? Overcoming Marital Challenges by Anonymous
My marital challenges put strain not only on my relationship with my husband but also on my relationship with God. Trusting God On those nights when dark thoughts clouded my mind, and I didn’t want to be a wife or a mother anymore, I cried out to my Heavenly Father, and was disappointed with the lack of love I felt back. I didn’t get much of an answer. The only answers I heard were things I did not think my kind Heavenly Father would say to His struggling daughter. “Tough it out.” “It’s not that bad.” “You’re choosing to be depressed.” I still do not know if those words were…
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Fatal Young Romance or Lifelong Friendship?
by Anonymous A pregnancy took this young couple by surprise. These college freshmen decided to get married after dating for only a few months. Could such a relationship possibly stand the test of time? This author describes some of the benefits of marrying young as well as benefits of starting a family young, despite the adversity she and her husband faced. Do Shotgun Weddings Last? A True Marriage Story I walked down the isle of the small room carpeted in orange Berber carpet. The shiny brass arch covered in crumpled silk ivy surrounded my soon-to-be husband. A fitting start for the rushed wedding. The sparse wedding party smiled as I…