Arguing
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Sink or Swim Part 2: Home of Anxiety & Depression by Anonymous
Let’s set the mood: The wedding was over, the honeymoon was bliss, and real life set in. The first few months of marriage was great. W (my husband) and I found an apartment in a great location in Provo – and for all the married couples looking in Provo, you know that is no small feat! W was going to UVU while I finished my degree at BYU. As the fall semester ended and the Holidays approached, something changed. I felt myself becoming anxious for no perceived reason. I could feel something was wrong. I started to become the queen of nagging, picking apart W on the daily. At first…
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Finding Strength Part III: Faith Crisis, Sex Drought, Less Love, Suicidal Thoughts by Anonymous
He belongs to a very large family and is one of 7 siblings. Unfortunately, he hasn’t felt close to any of them since his mother died when he was 13 years old. She fought a vicious battle with Melanoma that progressed to a point where she was left comatose and dying in their home until it took her life. He watched his mother die slowly. He witnessed her declining every day until she took her last breaths. Shortly after his mother died, his father remarried, and the family moved two hours away. He had just lost his mother, a stranger was now living in his home and trying to control…
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Imperfect People Part 3: Marriage Roles and Responsibilities
by Anonymous When we are struggling in our own marriages, sometimes inspiring stories of marriages that survived are exactly what we need. This anonymous author shares how she struggled in her marriage due to love languages, communication fallout, and questions about roles. Marriage roles and responsibilities cause a lot of marital strife. Read what this author learned about making marriage work when she and her husband could not agree on their roles in their long-term relationship. I have opened up about some of the darker moments in my marriage, but I want to paint a better picture of what my relationship looks like. I’d bet money that this will be…
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Different Cultures, Temper Issues, Mama’s Boy: Real Marriage Stories
by Anonymous Looking for real marriage stories that mirror your own? This author can help. While experiencing cultural variations in marriage and a husband that was emotionally close to his mother, this author had a hard time adjusting to marriage. When she realized “Wow, my partner has a temper,” distance really began to grow. How did they “become one” again? Everybody tells you the first years of marriage are considered “the honeymoon stage” because you’re so in love that everything is perfect. NOT TRUE! Our first 3 years were the worst years of our marriage, and I don’t really know how we survived it. If you’re looking to read real…
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Redefining Our Relationship: Feeling Resentful towards Husband After Baby, Husband Doesn’t Help Enough
by Alyson Feeling resentful towards husband after baby is a very common phenomenon. You are learning your new role and you feel overwhelmed. At the same time, your husband may not be sure where he fits in and what his new role really is. This can cause tense feelings and strained relationships. If you feel your husband doesn’t help enough, Alyson completely understands. My husband and I were slowly approaching our five-year anniversary when we found out we were going to have our first child. Let me first say, I love being a mom, but this came as a huge shock to us. We had just had a conversation about being okay…
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Spouses Disagree Over Family Size: Arguing in Marriage Christian
by Holly What if you want another baby but husband doesn’t? Holly shares her true experiences with arguing in marriage. Christian couples often value marriage and work hard to overcome problems including when spouses disagree over family size. Arguing in Marriage: Christian Relationship Story My husband and I met in college. We lived in the same apartment complex, but went to different schools. He went to a highly regarded school that was hard to get into. I went to a nearby school that a monkey could get into. We were definitely not each other’s usual types. I was funky and quirky. I had a tongue ring and a different…
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Losing Myself in Marriage by Anonymous
Losing self esteem in marriage is more common than you may think. Your world is changing, and you may be seeking approval from spouse or others. This anonymous writer shares her experience with losing self esteem in marriage. Losing Self Esteem in Marriage I definitely wouldn’t say that I have low self-esteem. If anything, I could probably dial down how highly I think of myself… or at least how I present the way I think of myself. I’ll explain a little. I have always felt odd getting compliments from people, so when I do get one, I always agree with them: “Yeah, I’m amazing” or “Yeah, you will miss me…
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Imperfect People Part 2: Empty Threats in a Relationship, Feeling Confused about Marriage, Husband Raised His Hand to Me
by Anonymous Have you or your spouse ever implemented empty threats in a relationship? A sense of lacking control can act one or both partners to act out. Like the author, you may be wondering: “What should I do? My husband raised his hand to me.” If you’re feeling confused about marriage for this reason or any other, this story might provide some insight. Part II: Raising a Hand Read Part 1 of Imperfect People here! Feeling Confused about Marriage Confusion has accompanied me throughout my marriage. It’s this deep confusion that I can’t dig myself out of. I’m never sure if it’s my husband or myself in the wrong,…
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Two People Giving 100%: Blending Families in Marriage and Adjusting Back to Civilian Life by Madyson
When Madyson married her husband, they had a few hurdles to face. They faced explaining their private elopement to family, having a child together, and searching for work after adjusting back to civilian life. Blending families in marriage can be challenging, but her spouse happily took on the role of “bonus dad” to her daughter. Translating their military life to civilian life tested the integrity of their marriage, but they found a way to push past the stress and arguments. Marriage is a partnership, a life of living with essentially your best friend, and a life of fulfillment. I’m married to the love of my life, my best friend, the…