Arguing
- Abuse, Anger or Temper, Arguing, Considering Divorce, Love Languages, Mental Illness, Raising Children, Roles, Therapy
What Are Normal Ups and Downs in a Relationship?
by Anonymous What are normal ups and downs in a relationship? In this story, one dedicated husband shares his take on the ups and downs of marriage. I’ve been with my wife for 9 years, and married 6. We have two absolutely wonderful 4 year old children. I’m about to turn 29, and she will be 28 in March. In the beginning, it was as per usual with new feelings, and new emotions that neither of us had really felt before we had met each other. Sex life was amazing, and very often. This relationship was one for the ages, we bonded so well, and in-laws treated each like their…
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5 things I learned during my (challenging) first year of marriage
By Celi B Thank you, Celi, for contributing to our stories about marriage problems and triumphs! In this story, Celi talks about adjusting to a new marriage, and how she struggled during her first year living in a new country with her new husband. If you’re considering relocating for a relationship, or you’re struggling in any marriage, this story is for you. Our Love Story: Relocating for a Relationship When I got married, I honestly had no idea what I was getting myself into. I’ve known my husband for over 25 years. Long story short, we traveled in an exchange program with 120 other young people from 20 countries. He…
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I Love My Husband but I Hate Our Marriage: Constant Fighting in Marriage, Competition in a Marriage by Anonymous
This author wanted to share how her perfectionism wreaked havoc on her marriage. She and her husband endured constant fighting in marriage and the consequences of competition in a marriage. If you’ve ever thought to yourself “I love my husband and hate our marriage,” you’re not alone. Read this author’s story: Setting the Stage for Competition in a Marriage This isn’t a long story, but it’s a lesson I want to share. My entire life pre-marriage, I had always been strong willed. I liked to make all the decisions and I tended to believe what I believe was always correct. Yes, I need to work on being humble, but it’s…
- Abuse, Anxiety and Panic, Arguing, Church of Jesus Christ of LDS, Dating, Divorce, Marrying Young, Mental Illness, Therapy
Part 1: When is Divorce the Answer? by Anonymous
A Story of Emotional Abuse in Marriage, Physical Abuse in Marriage, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder in Husband We talk a lot about working through problems and staying married here at Wives’ Tribe, but when is divorce the answer? Abuse is a reason to end a marriage, and so is a person who is not only imperfect but also immovable. A person who is treating you poorly and entirely unwilling to change may have problems that are beyond your control. Read on for a story about emotional abuse in marriage and how this anonymous writer dealt with their hurdles. After enduring physical abuse in marriage and narcissistic personality disorder in her…
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Love and Marriage Advice from Someone who Married Twice! By Katie
If you want sound love and marriage advice, ask someone who has enjoyed two successful and happy marriages! I’m honored to be asked to write a little about an institution of which I’m quite fond — marriage. I love it so much, I’ve done it twice. The first time was for 28 years before the love of my life died of cancer, I am now married to the love of the rest of my life. We’ve been married a little over two years. I won the lottery twice with two completely different men. I’m here to tell you that Stephenie Meyer was right, you can be in love with…
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Two Worlds Collide: Couples Counseling Testimony by Anonymous
This marriage story is about two very different people with very different people who learn to unite as one with the help of couples counseling. If you need help finding couples counseling, it can be as easy as typing into google “couples counseling near me.” I want to tell my marriage story. I have been married for almost four years now. I dated my husband for a full year and knew him for about a year and a half before we got married. I always thought that if I dated someone for at least a year, the adjustment of living together wouldn’t be as difficult. Well, I was definitely wrong…
- Abuse, Arguing, Church of Jesus Christ of LDS, Considering Divorce, Family Dynamics, Fertility, Raising Children, Therapy
Therapy or Divorce: Childhood Trauma, Miscarriage and Family, Becoming Co-Parenting Roommates by Anonymous
“Either go back to therapy or I want a divorce.” Words I never thought I would say or truly mean. I’ve never given an ultimatum before. I don’t like ultimatums, they can seem like manipulation. But I had hit my limit. My husband and I have been married for 5 years, and they’ve been some of the best and happiest, as well as some of the hardest years of my life. When I met him, he become my best friend. We spent every day together and had so much fun. All I had really wanted was a friend, and we were for a little while. Then our relationship progressed and…
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Coming to Terms with Divorce: Balancing Self-Care and Motherhood by Dani
laid in bed two nights ago and I cried. I’m staying in a hotel in St. George I’ve stayed in multiple times. And it hit me. I feel more at home in this hotel than I do anywhere else in the world. I feel more myself in this place than I do anywhere else. I feel more secure, confident, and safe than I do anywhere else. I feel more calm and peace here than I do anywhere else. I’ve been thinking about this constantly over the last 36 hours. Why do I feel all of these things in a place I’ve visited only a few times? Why does my current…
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Who Did I Marry? When the Honeymoon Phase Ends Early by Madi
When we got out of the water, C found a little hermit crab and started chasing me around with it. I always loved how playful and silly he could be. He never had to act like he was “too cool.” He was just himself, and I loved that. After taunting me with our new-found friend, we headed back to our cabana to layout and relax. I reached for my phone to look through some of the photos we had taken, but I quickly realized my phone was shorting out. Somehow, some water must have gotten into the case. I was so annoyed, but hey at least C still had his…
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Imperfect People Part IV: What’s the Point? Overcoming Marital Challenges by Anonymous
My marital challenges put strain not only on my relationship with my husband but also on my relationship with God. Trusting God On those nights when dark thoughts clouded my mind, and I didn’t want to be a wife or a mother anymore, I cried out to my Heavenly Father, and was disappointed with the lack of love I felt back. I didn’t get much of an answer. The only answers I heard were things I did not think my kind Heavenly Father would say to His struggling daughter. “Tough it out.” “It’s not that bad.” “You’re choosing to be depressed.” I still do not know if those words were…