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A Life of Her Own: How to Work On Yourself in Marriage
If you’re wondering how to work on yourself in marriage, we applaud you! It’s easy to focus on how you’d like to change your spouse, but that path will lead to disappointment and contention. One of the most important steps to a better marriage is becoming happier with yourself and your life. It’s time to look at the way you spend your time and fill it with things you love. When you are happy with lots of things in your life, you become less dependent on your spouse to create that happiness for you. If you want to know how to work on yourself in marriage, try looking at the…
- Abuse, Arguing, Church of Jesus Christ of LDS, Considering Divorce, Family Dynamics, Fertility, Raising Children, Therapy
Therapy or Divorce: Childhood Trauma, Miscarriage and Family, Becoming Co-Parenting Roommates by Anonymous
“Either go back to therapy or I want a divorce.” Words I never thought I would say or truly mean. I’ve never given an ultimatum before. I don’t like ultimatums, they can seem like manipulation. But I had hit my limit. My husband and I have been married for 5 years, and they’ve been some of the best and happiest, as well as some of the hardest years of my life. When I met him, he become my best friend. We spent every day together and had so much fun. All I had really wanted was a friend, and we were for a little while. Then our relationship progressed and…
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Six Years: Pornography & Cheating, Separation, and Finding Inner Strength by Anonymous
I feel raw writing this, because it is unfolding very literally as I type the words. It is a story that one day I hope to share freely. But because I am parallel processing alongside this writing, I thought best to keep it anonymous for now. I have a marriage probably quite a bit like yours. And although I don’t need to tell you this, I will: I love my husband. I adore him. He has given me the world’s most beautiful children, and he has supported me in my dreams. He is kind and good to his core; he is generous, selfless, and willing to change. I have a…
- Abuse, Anger or Temper, Anxiety and Panic, Considering Divorce, Family Dynamics, Marrying Young, Mental Illness
Revelations + Realizations: Learning Spouse after Marriage, Mental Health Disorders, Emotional and Verbal Abuse by Madi
I wish I could say that things immediately get better as my story progresses. I wish I could tell you that everything you’ve read this far is as bad as things got for me, but that’s not the case. I want it to be clear that I am not sharing these personal and difficult experiences to gain attention or pity, but rather, to empower others who are in similar situations to reach out for help and make a change. Too often, emotional and verbal abuse fall under the shadow of physical abuse. I have chosen to share these intimate details of my story to enlighten others of the dangers these overlooked…
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Stay or Go? – Debating Divorce, Debilitating Addiction by Anonymous
I started off the year 2015 as a recent divorcee from a verbally abusive marriage, and honestly, I was wanting to be loved! I started going back to church to truly work on myself. I attended a church that was specifically for young single adults (known as a YSA ward in “Mormon” lingo). When I first started attending, all I could think of myself was as “damaged goods.” As the months passed by, I met Chad. Chad was the SWEETEST man I had ever met. We grew close, and eventually it turned into a passionate relationship. I confided in him my divorce and the reasons for it, and he was…
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International Women’s Day: March 8, 2020
Thank you to the resilient wives who have shared their stories with us! These women support loved ones with crippling addictions. They accept and love new family members. They bravely walk into therapy with their spouses. The women of Wives’ Tribe work tirelessly to support their families. They stand by their spouses through disagreements and miscommunication. They go above and beyond to take care of their children and their husbands every day, and they understand they have to take care of themselves as well. International Women’s Day is a holiday that is celebrated publicly in countries like Ukraine, Russia, and Armenia, among others. This tradition began in the early…
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Feeling Ambivalent Towards your Partner: Facing the Challenge of Postpartum Depression by BriElle
I was hit with postpartum depression shortly after the birth of my third child. I had three kids ages two and under, and felt completely overwhelmed by my situation. “How can I do this? What have I done to myself? Do I even like being a mom?” were all thoughts that scrambled through my mind relentlessly. I wept, feeling so much anxiety and pressure to be all that my three kids needed me to be. Thankfully, that pressure did not come from my husband. He did not expect to come home from work with a clean house or dinner on the table. He is an incredible man, and fully supports…
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Forming a New Family: Living near In-Laws, Fighting for Time by Anonymous
Just over a year ago, my husband, our first child, and I moved to his hometown for his new job in the family business. My husband’s entire extended family — grandparents on both sides, aunts, uncles and cousins on both sides, their in-laws, great aunts and uncles, etc. — all live in this same area and see each other everywhere. They work together, send their kids to the same schools, invest in the same projects, and meet up at church on Sunday. When I was younger, it was just my parents and my siblings. We were independent, introverted, and happy to “do our own thing”. Living around so much family…
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Fighting for Marriage by Wives’ Tribe
We firmly believe marriage makes us better human beings. A successful marriage requires sacrifice and compromise. We have to forego some independence and much selfishness. We believe marriage is God’s plan to both help us become selfless and find lasting joy. We have observed that there is a general complacency about marriage. In the last ten years, fewer people are getting married, and unfortunately, divorce rates are still about 40-50%, and even higher for subsequent marriages. Selfish ideas and inaccurate fantasies about marriage run rampant. You might have heard the phrases “we grew apart,” “people change,” or “we were two different people.” We ourselves succumbed to false ideas about…
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Wedding Ring… Less by Dani
What does a wedding ring mean to you? There’s a palpable absence on my hand of pieces of metal with diamonds I used to wear to symbolize that my heart belonged to someone. And I notice the absence of those materials on my hand the most when I’m driving. I usually drive with my left hand on the top of my wheel. When I was married, this meant that my wedding band and engagement ring were situated right on top of the wheel, too. I never realized how much I looked at them in that position until they were no longer there. I wasn’t the absolute most religious about wearing…