Feeling Naive: Marrying Someone Who has Been Divorced, Marrying Young vs Marrying Later by Cassandra
Cassandra shares her story about marrying a divorced man who is older than herself. Between disapproval of her loved ones and her own burning questions about marrying young vs marrying later, getting married was a difficult decision.
If you have experience marrying someone who has been divorced, you will relate with Cassandra’s concerns and story.
Marrying Young vs Marrying Later: 18-Year-Old Bride
I was a newly engaged 18-year-old that never even had a boyfriend before my now-husband.
My first boyfriend, my now-husband, was once married. He had divorced his ex-wife just a year before meeting me.
It makes my cringe to even say those words. I feel like it automatically portrays me as this naive little girl that was manipulated into love, and couldn’t even see the red flags that were waving in my face.
My family and friends generated lots of opinions and genuine worries. I mean, how could they not worry about me?
I was an 18-year-old freshman planning to marry a man that might not take marriage seriously.
Lots of questions filled my mind. What happens if things get tough? Will he leave me too? He’s “been” with a woman, and well… I’ve kissed about three guys. The insecurities were real and needed to be addressed.
Marrying Someone Who Has Been Divorced
I remember the first time I brought up her name and the fact that he chose to end a marriage. Our relationship was at a standstill and I knew it was because we needed to have this conversation.
Tears filled his eyes before a word could ever form. That’s when I realized it wasn’t something he takes lightly. That’s when I realized that if I thought the whole ordeal was embarrassing for me, I could only imagine how he felt.
Marrying a Divorced Man
I went forward with faith.
Although the early engaged part of our relationship wasn’t easy, our marriage has exceeded my expectations.
To be honest, I truly believe that his previous marriage has only made ours stronger. He knows what it’s like to be in an unhappy marriage where you feel trapped and helpless.
Because of that, he’s thankful for me, and treats me like he’s thankful for me. I’m grateful that I didn’t give up and got the answers I needed to create the life I have today.
Marrying a divorced man can be intimidating, but marrying someone who has been divorced can have a beautiful ending. God has a plan, and Cassandra has discovered that there is no “right” answer to marrying young vs marrying later in life.
