Identity

  • Arguing,  Cultural Differences,  Family Dynamics,  Identity

    5 things I learned during my (challenging) first year of marriage

    By Celi B Thank you, Celi, for contributing to our stories about marriage problems and triumphs! In this story, Celi talks about adjusting to a new marriage, and how she struggled during her first year living in a new country with her new husband. If you’re considering relocating for a relationship, or you’re struggling in any marriage, this story is for you. Our Love Story: Relocating for a Relationship When I got married, I honestly had no idea what I was getting myself into. I’ve known my husband for over 25 years. Long story short, we traveled in an exchange program with 120 other young people from 20 countries. He…

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  • Church of Jesus Christ of LDS,  Dating,  Identity,  Roles

    Being a Traditional Wife Married to a Feminist Man: Marriage and Feminism by Hayley

    Some of us plan on being a traditional wife more than we realize. Others have a husband who hope their woman will enjoy being a traditional wife. What happens when a traditional woman and a feminist man come together? Can marriage and feminism work together? Part I: Before I Knew I Married a Feminist Man I’m only two months in and already failing at being a wife. The first year is supposed to be the ‘Honeymoon Year,’ so maybe this marriage is wrong. You’re supposed to be happy to do the dishes, plan the meals, and manage the household. If he has to lift a finger, I’m a terrible wife……

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  • Anxiety and Panic,  Church of Jesus Christ of LDS,  Dating,  Deciding to Marry,  Identity,  Marrying Young,  Raising Children

    Cutting Single Life Short: Mourning Single Life, Struggling with Marriage and Motherhood by Jessica

    I was the typical girl at BYU who came, studied Elementary Education, and married a young RM at age 20.   Except I had never wanted that. I wanted to travel the world, meet and date a lot of boys, graduate and use my degree, and live independently away from home for years before “settling down”. It’s hard for me to explain how hard this was for me.   I grew up in Ohio. I didn’t date before I went to college. At all. I had been on two dates.  One was actually with some guy I met while visiting Utah over the summer.  And another was a guy from my stake that I…

  • Arguing,  Communication,  Financial Challenges,  Identity

    Losing Myself in Marriage by Anonymous

    Losing self esteem in marriage is more common than you may think. Your world is changing, and you may be seeking approval from spouse or others. This anonymous writer shares her experience with losing self esteem in marriage. Losing Self Esteem in Marriage I definitely wouldn’t say that I have low self-esteem. If anything, I could probably dial down how highly I think of myself… or at least how I present the way I think of myself. I’ll explain a little. I have always felt odd getting compliments from people, so when I do get one, I always agree with them: “Yeah, I’m amazing” or “Yeah, you will miss me…

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  • Identity,  Marrying Young,  Mental Illness,  Raising Children,  School and Work

    Feeling Lonely in Marriage: by Kenzie

    Marrying young means you get to grow and change together — but of course, that comes with growing pains. Kenzie found that she was feeling lonely in her marriage after falling in love at 19. If you have ever asked the question: Why do I feel so lonely in my marriage?, then we encourage you to read Kenzie’s experience below. Our Story: Meeting & Marrying So Young I married my husband when I was 19 years old. Marrying so young has its own hardships, but I’ll save that for another story.  We met at BYU-Idaho, where we were both undergrad students. We dated for a year before we were married.…

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