He Would Never: Domestic Violence
by Anonymous
This story is written from a victim of domestic abuse. The National Domestic Violence Hotline can help victims, survivors of domestic violence. Call 1-800-799-7233. Chat with an advocate on their website, https://www.thehotline.org/.
This short story about domestic violence It can be hard to find a narrative story about domestic violence, since its victims are reluctant to speak. We thank this anonymous author for sharing and helping other women.
Red Flags for Domestic Violence: Pay Attention
Red flag, red flag, red flag. These particular red flags are very hard to miss, but a lot of red flags for domestic violence are easy to miss. You may think to yourself that it is just one small one, or it will never happen again.
It doesn’t work that way. They will reappear and it is vital to know the signs of how to spot them, and how to approach them in a calming way. You never know when catching a red flag for domestic violence could potentially save your mental health, or it could save your life.
When I was in College: True Narrative Story about Domestic Violence
Picture this. You are 19 years old and heading to college. These are going to be the BEST years and BEST memories of your life. Absolutely nothing will get in your way and nothing will bring you down.
Except a boy.
But you have known this boy, and what could go wrong? You start to date and he is just perfect for you. He treats you like a Queen, cooks for you, takes you on nice dates, and shows you off to his friends.
Sounds like a fairytale in reality. After a few months, however, things start to get a little weird.
He is bringing up his ex a lot, like a few times a day. He wants to put all of his stuff in your apartment so he can spend more time with you. He wants to start using your phone every day, to you know… “check on stuff.”
You probably will not think too much on it and brush it off, thinking all will go back to normal. A few more weeks roll by and you get a call from one of your friends to hang and study for a few finals.
No biggie. No problem. It is literally just studying and preparing for finals.
Next moment, however, you realize that your Prince Charming is in front of you and he has slapped the phone out of your hand. Now you are getting confronted about your innocent study plans. The sudden actions will have you thinking “Why is this happening?” or “What is going on?”
The First Hit: It’s Not Temporary
When that first strike happens, or even the first controlling action they do, it will cause this wave of uncertainty in your brain and stun you. You may be reading this and say, “Oh they don’t do this to me,” or “He has only ever hit me once,” or “We had our fights, but we are good now.”
Domestic Abuse is not something that goes away overnight. Or even months. This behavior is rooted in that individual from a past trauma or learned behavior.
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My Advice and my Short Story about Domestic Violence
After that first strike, the time to leave is now. Do not look back and do not reconnect. Reconnecting with an abusive individual refuels their desire to keep total control over you.
This can happen to anyone. ANYBODY. This happened to me for a year.
In that year I was in denial and kept running back to him. He promised me the world but gave me a black eye. He promised me he would change, but he gave me a bloody nose instead.
Actions will always speak louder than words. Read into their actions, and do not be afraid to simply question their motive for any questionable behavior.
“How do I know if they need a sense of total control?” There is no straight answer. Sometimes you do not know until it happens.
Do they need to look through your phone on a consistent basis? Do they make comments about how you dress on a regular basis? Do they insist on tagging along every time your friend invites you out?
Here’s a big one: Do they play the victim and blame you for something they did?
If you said yes to any of these, it is time to open those big, beautiful eyes, and pay attention to those hidden red flags for domestic violence. They could be innocent, but they could also cause great harm.
It took me a year to leave – and others are not that lucky as me. I urge you to get help – there is hope. You deserve the world.
National Domestic Violence Hotline can help victims, survivors of domestic violence. Call 1-800-799-7233. Chat with an advocate on their website, https://www.thehotline.org/.
Thank you to our author for sharing this short story about domestic violence. We hope this narrative story about domestic violence can inspire and help at least one woman.
