What is the Seven Year Itch About? True Stories about the 7 Year Itch

What is the seven year itch about? If you’re between years 6 and 10 of your marriage, you may be experiencing a hard time in your marriage.

What I Learned from My Parents’ Marriage

I grew up in a house with both my mom and dad, as well as a younger sister. I knew a select few of peers that also had both parents still married and because of that, I thought I knew exactly what marriage was supposed to look like.

Lol!

Growing up, our regular routine was Dad in the den watching TV and Mom in the bedroom watching tv. We rarely sat together for dinner, but did it more often on Sundays after church. My parents didn’t fight, but were more like roommates. Sadly, when my sister graduated high school, they divorced.

My goal in marriage was to simply be friends with my husband. During the first seven years of our marriage, that included serving in our church, having a son, and regular outings every weekend with friends and family.

When Everything Changed in My Marriage

I really thought I hit the jackpot! I had a man that loved everything I loved. He agreed to every TV show I recommended, every outing. He was down to try anything with a smile.

But did I do the same for him?? NO!

My husband asked me to go to a restaurant bar. He asked me to watch the Oakland Raiders game. He asked me to watch Star Wars. Must I go on??

My answer was, “Naw, I’m not really into that.” Over and over, I rejected his invitations to enter into his world. And the sad thing is, I had no idea how selfish I really was. That was the major lesson for me. I needed to learn what real servanthood and sacrifice looks like in marriage.

How the Seven Year Itch Affected my Marriage

Right before we hit year seven, it all came to a halt. You’ve probably heard the rumor about the seven year itch… well, if it doesn’t happen right at seven years, something will happen sometime within ten years.

My husband couldn’t take it anymore. We started counseling, turned to our church community and had to rebuild our marriage.

The truth is, we got a chance to renew ourselves for our marriage. We decided not to walk away from the marriage. but to lean on Jesus to start over.

We both came back to the marriage whole, renewed and restored.

No matter what issues you might be going through, you can make it. Marriage isn’t easy, but it can show you who you are, and it’s up to you to be better for God, you, your spouse, and the next generation, because they are watching.

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What is the seven year itch about? One or both partners may start to think the grass is greener on the other side. One or both might believe that their partner will never change or become what they need them to be. The truth is, no individual is perfect, and no marriage is perfect. The only thing that leads to a blissful marriage is sacrifice for one another.