Fighting for Marriage by Wives’ Tribe

We firmly believe marriage makes us better human beings. A successful marriage requires sacrifice and compromise. We have to forego some independence and much selfishness. We believe marriage is God’s plan to both help us become selfless and find lasting joy.

We have observed that there is a general complacency about marriage. In the last ten years, fewer people are getting married, and unfortunately, divorce rates are still about 40-50%, and even higher for subsequent marriages.

Selfish ideas and inaccurate fantasies about marriage run rampant. You might have heard the phrases “we grew apart,” “people change,” or “we were two different people.”  

We ourselves succumbed to false ideas about marriage and were ill-prepared for what our married futures held. We were both took unproductive routes in our marriages, choosing to feel trapped and unhappy rather than seeing all the good in our spouses and accepting them for who they were.

While some divorces are certainly necessary, others can be avoided, and happiness can be found again. The reality is that all relationships ebb and flow, and everyone faces different marital challenges.

We would never want someone to remain in an abusive marriage or with a person who is unwilling to work on a marriage when there are serious underlying issues. However, many problems and differences can be repaired, improved, or forgiven. Two good people working hard on their marriage are going to find consistent and long-lasting happiness.

Marriage is a supremely unique relationship. You have a best friend and romantic partner, as well as someone to take care of and someone to take care of you. You have to give at least as much as you take, but the rewards of comfort, security and love are so worth the effort.

You are all amazing. Thanks for reading and contributing these stories, and caring for your special and incredible partners.

Love, Rachael and Lacy

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